Take 10 minutes to Learn why you procrastinate

I was a very bad Procrastinator for a very long time, until i really understood the basics of why i procrastinate.

In order to understand why you procrastinate, first you should have a strong desire to eliminate procrastination in your life and following the methods mentioned below will be helpful.

I. Track down your everyday activity

     When i first started writing down the list of activities that i do everyday, it felt like a waste of time. But later while analyzing the one month data i clearly understood why i don't have enough time to do the necessary activities and it narrowed down to the bad habits that i had created over time.

I was spending most of my time in Facebook and was affected by the "Chain-clicking curse" where watching a video from Facebook will lead to YouTube in-turn to Twitter to see the trend and it goes on and on into loads of unnecessary browsing wasting your precious time

II.Understanding why we procrastinate

We procrastinate because of the habits that we create over time. When we work some random thought strikes our mind, it might be as simple as,

where to go for the next vacation?

and I go to online to check details of it.
it doesn't stop there, then to Facebook to see where my friends went?
and something else catches up my eyes and the clicks goes endlessly

III. How we create Habits

I have been following this routine every day which let me do overtime to complete my work and had no time for the essential things in life. All of these made sense to me when i read the Power of habit by Charles Duhigg.

understanding the basic of habit was big help to me. I starts with a cue/Signal in my case it was the random thought and my routine was to search about it and reward that i get is leaving a stressful work for that moment/satisfaction by answering my random thought which sucks my time endlessly leaving only a very short period of time to do the necessary.

Now the trick it to replace the bad routine with a good routine which will lead to greater productivity in life, which could be understood by looking at how runners reward themselves
Here the cue is the Running shoe and it lets you to the routine of running which was created over time, running leads to the reward which is sense of accomplishment on completing a run also satisfying the Endorphin craving that you get by looking at the running shoe

IV. How I cured myself by changing my routine

1. Keeping myself distraction free

a. Turn off internet: Most of my work doesn't need internet so turned
     off my WiFi whenever i work.

b. Note pad: Whenever some random thoughts strike rather than
    searching it online i started recording them down in a small notepad and
    researched about them later

c. Setting Time limits: Started setting a duration to complete my work     
    which helped me to focus more on my work, Even had set time on
    socializing with my colleagues spending not more than 5 minutes on
    unnecessary talks.

2. Sustaining the habits

a. Tracking your activities: Its quite tough for me to write every activity      
    now and then, so i spent half an hour every day before sleeping to write
    down the activities of the whole day splitting into hourly activities and
    do a quick analysis on where to improve next day. It looks something    
    like this,

    9:00 - 10:00 : Forecast Meeting
    10:00 - 11:00 : Project#1 - Prepared the procedure

b. Prioritizing activities for tomorrow: This summary helps me in
    prioritizing the activities that i should be concentrating more tomorrow
    and I write down top 3 things that should be completed tomorrow

c. Monthly and Quarterly Review: then i started analyzing my monthly
    and quarterly data's to continuously improve my productivity

The methods mentioned above worked perfectly for me and I started finding more time to do the necessary things in life. Hope it will be useful for you as well, Let me know if it was helpful :)

Source :http://www.quora.com/What-can-I-learn-right-now-in-just-10-minutes-that-could-be-useful-for-the-rest-of-my-life 

Why do you cry?

When clouds of pain loom in the sky

When a shadow of sadness flickers by

When a tear finds its way to the eye

When fear keeps loneliness alive

I try to console my heart 

Why is it that you cry? I ask

This is only what life imparts

These deep silences within

have been handed out by time 

Everyone's story has a little sorrow 

Everyone's share has a little sunshine

No need for tears in your eyes

Every moment can be a new life 

Why do you let them pass by?

Oh heart , Why is it that you cry?

- Javid Aktar 

(translated from the film Zindagi na milega Dobhara)

Dashavataras and Evolution

This article is an excerpt from Wikipedia…..

Some modern interpreters sequence Vishnu's ten main avatars in a definitive order, from simple life-forms to more complexes, and see the Dashavataras as a reflection, or a foreshadowing, of the modern theory of evolution. Such an interpretation was first propounded by Theosophist Helena Blavatsky in her 1877 opus Isis Unveiled, in which she proposed the following ordering of the Dashavataras:

Matsya - Fish, the first class of vertebrates; evolved in water.

Kurma - Amphibious but Reptile (living in both water and land; but not to confuse with the vertebrate class amphibians).

Varaha - Wild land animal.

Narasimha - Beings that are half-animal and half-human (indicative of emergence of human thoughts and intelligence in powerful wild nature) (the missing link between apes and humans.).

Vamana - Short, premature human beings.(Hobbits?)

Parasurama - Early humans living in forests and using weapons. (Dwarfs?)

Rama - Humans living in community, beginning of civil society.

Krishna - Humans practicing animal husbandry, politically advanced societies.

Buddha - Humans finding enlightenment.

Kalki - Advanced humans with great powers of (self)destruction. (This is the future.)

For some believers, who don't consider Buddha as incarnation, they believe Balarama as the alternate incarnation. He is symbolized along with Plow in hand, which in turn depicts moving towards agriculture from forest.

This interpretation was taken up by other Orientalists and by Hindus in India, particularly reformers who sought to harmonize traditional religion with modern science. Keshub Chandra Sen, a prominent figure in the Brahmo Samaj and an early teacher of Swami Vivekananda, was the first Indian Hindu to adopt this reading. In an 1882 lecture he said:

"The Puranas speak of the different manifestations or incarnations of the Deity in different epochs of the world history. Lo! The Hindu Avatar rises from the lowest scale of life through the fish, the tortoise, and the hog up to the perfection of humanity. Indian Avatarism is, indeed, a crude representation of the ascending scale of Divine creation. Such precisely is the modern theory of evolution."

A real love story?

What i am going to tell now is my story ,a real love story. I was so desperate to write this story as much as a buffalo likes to stay in water. This story is very important to me. Let me start now.

I am at her marriage now. Before stepping my leg inside the marriage hall.Let me get you some flash back now. Her name is Neha ,cutest  girl i have ever known at least for me she is very cute . We met at admission to our college . She was beside me and she asked for a pen (taking even a small step takes you very far) . We got to know each other .Luckily for me she was in our branch ,Information technology.

We became best friends (At least for her but not me ) always together ,eating, fighting,studying and while we where not together I couldn't resist texting her about something or stalk her on facebook. After 3 months ,2 weeks and 1 day i proposed her. She took three days to accept thought ( longest wait in my life).We were very connected ,made fun together ,lost track of time together.How happy were we.The most tense time  was when we had our job interviews . We prayed that we would get job in same company. We got the job in same company! how happy we became. We mostly stayed in same room during our job.

Now here where the drama starts , like in films .Her father got a proposal for her marriage . But however she was very broken and disheartened so she told her father about us . But he was too stubborn to allow me to marry her .He wouldn't mind if her daughter was sad or the fact that she loved me so much,he wanted her to marry same caste guy(caste matters in India). Done ! She was going to marry within 6 months . 6 years being together with her ,all her love,all our dreams? and now she goes to some strangers home as a wife. that thought was very disturbing.

She was very depressed even though we sat together she wouldn't talk with me , she would just stare .I did everything to cheer her up,but she had something else in her mind.She wanted to run away from here and marry somewhere else.

  Neha’s father was very much a jerk. He even gave me her wedding card. Now coming back to the present ,I was about to step inside the marriage hall right. I felt like a child standing in front of candy shop without any money in hand to buy the candy.But I could steal the candy I thought.

  She was wearing blue sari ,Yes she was looking like an angel to me,but whose angel is she? I said “relax,you know what to do now“. I didn't want her fathers eye on me,he thought i wouldn't  turn up here.From far i made eye contact with Neha .She understood,she went to washroom. I followed my instincts. After 15 minutes we were running on national highway towards the railway station. After sometimes some people were behind us.But we still didn't stop running.

After sometimes i realized a guy had grabbed me at the back and pulled me .

“Where are you going ,you know right its not allowed this late”he said.

Wait . what?

I looked back ,What? He was our watchmen .

I asked him where was Neha and others chasing me.

He said” I think i should lock you in room from now on,this is third time you are walking in sleep”.

I looked around there was no Neha or the others chasing me. I realized he made sense now and it was another dream. He guided me to the room . If Neha is going to marry i would not have that much courage to take her from marriage I thought.

Probably i must stop watching Hindi films from now .

Son of police

 

When i was a small kid many people would ask me mockingly “Ammer polica?” (is your father police?) surprisingly my answer would be yes .For sometime they will be dumbstruck ,unable to think something else to scare me off. Yes i am the son of a  police who works day and night for the welfare of the society.
  I wanted to write this post for a very long time to tell my fellow mortal beings what is it to be like to be son of a police and remove the stigma from your brain about a police. There are many advantages of being the son of police. First ,when you are small no one can scare you telling that uncle is police and he will put you in jail. Abhe chalo yar even police are humans don't scare the shit out of the child and put him in a wrong notion of police.The other big advantage is that he will never scold or beat you (BEWARE:mom will get more excuses to beat you up :P ).Maybe he would spend less time while you grow up but there is always a little time while he plays with you instead of resting for the night duty which proves his love and these moments you will cherish forever in your life.
  The best thing is he would be always positive in his every single words he says. He is the only person who can give courage to you and tell stories of his bravery as he experienced while solving crimes.In our village if people come to know that you are the son of police you get respected automatically.

  But still there are some bad times for you. At high school when i tell proudly to some of my friends they would ask me how much extra does he earn by corruption. These things pisses me off. It has become an alarming issue about having  such notions in common people . People are too idiots to believe anything. What if some crime happens at your home or to your family wouldn't police come to help you ,wouldn't they work day and night to solve it .Would you give money to them to solve the case early,well maybe yes.Then who is to blame ,who is more corrupt? is everyone corrupted ? but will we ever blame our self? is it corruption if a shop vendor of our village gives my father things for free for his service to the society?

  At the end i think being a son of police i feel proud of him. Helping some strangers who thinks bad about them. Its weird to think that he  is busy in his job for these people instead of spending time with the family .It is only the notion of the people about other people should change .Then there is really a chance of change.

DEDICATED TO ALL THE SON AND DAUGHTERS OF POLICE

PS: Aap ne Dabangg film dekh he , if not dont watch it :p

Theories II: Catching Fever, Poaching Fear

A fever is an expression of inner rage.
                                       —Julia Roberts

Every year, around this time, usually I used to get cold & fever. But, this time not. This is the thing which worried me. Because, for me, everything should happen when it have to happen. Three years ago, around this time, I did not catch fever. So, succeeding months turned into hell for me, due to attack of Aedes fly followed by female Anopheles mosquito. I have no idea about the forthcoming things. So I went to my brother and explained the whole situation. Soon, my brother took me to a restaurant and ordered a GudBud for me.

He said, "Your fear is reasonable and healthy one. This can be categorized as useful fear. Catching fever at intervals is actually indication of good health. It actually switches ON the immune system. It gives a 'kick', or it is a 'kick' itself. Three years ago you failed to catch fever, so immune system couldn't get up from sleep completely. That's why you were infected by dengue and malaria. Immunity was not ready to face strong foreign attack, it lost. But, whenever you succeeded in getting fever remaining years, the immunity got a very good wakeup call and got ready for attack of death eaters."

I finished GudBud, and mockingly said, "Why are you not connecting this to Quantum or philosophy? Don't you have good arguments?"

He smiled and ordered a Falooda for me. Next, he said, "Everything has connections. That's why ecosystem is functional & structural unit of the biosphere, which survives due to photosynthesis. Photo implies light, which can be understood using Quantum. We are still in Newtonian age of in terms of health and healthcare. We have to take a Quantum leap, a leap which physics took few decades back. A leap in medicine which exploits principles of Quantum, through which concepts of human body can be understood well."

I finished the Falooda too. "Boring….. You are deviating, connection to fever is lost."

"Why so urgent?" he said and bought me a Parfait. He added, "You know that atom is mostly empty, nearly 99.9999999999996% empty; don't ask me to define 'empty'. That means we are nothing. I'm empty, you're empty. But pathogens can't take those spaces. They can invade the space between the spaces. What immunity does is, either it kills the pathogen before reaching those destinations or it will race with them to occupy those spaces. If immune system is inert or lazy or sleepy, then it can't fight very well or it can't sprint efficiently, which gives the attackers an upper hand. So, fever is just tumbler of water spilling on sleeping guy, or vaccination, or just like warm up exercise, or net practice. In any way you can call it."

Simultaneously, I finished Parfait. I said, "That means all fevers are good. Okay. But where is your desolated Quantum?"

He bit his tongue, "Yeah, I almost forgot." then he told the waiter to bring one Chocolate Dad for me. He continued, "Not all fevers are good. Every major disease is accompanied by fever. Only countable illnesses are there which infects without fever. So, sometimes fever may be indication of big battle within. Uncertainty, right? Fever in our body can be sensed, but fever in large body is difficult to feel. Global warming is good example, it's a fever which is bad and can't be felt so easily. Now make connection to Quantum by yourself."

"You have the point." I said finishing the Chocolate Dad. Then he made me to consume mango & vanilla ice cream followed by couple of juices. Due to sudden late flash I asked him, "wait a minute, you said at first that I failed to catch fever. What the hell does that mean...? And you are making me to consume so many ice creams, whereas you had just a glass of juice. I don't have a clue about anything."

He laughed and quoted, "You will have the answer tomorrow morning."

Next morning, I couldn't get up from bed. Nose was running. My brother was sitting near my bed holding a thermometer 102°F.

“If envy were a fever, all the world would be ill”

                                 A Danish Proverb

The girl who didnt share her secret

   

  Hello my fellow homo sapiens (i wouldn't worry if you are an alien or bacteria). I wanted to write something philosophical lately .Its weird of me  because I hate to tell philosophies of oneself to be told to the world. Maybe because that is just an idea but still it is embedded deep down your mind that it cant be provoked  easily. After some bad research on few of my humans(about 20 samples :p) using them as a lab rats(sorry guys :p) i got an obvious insight about these secrets ,that is this secrets are much of girly thing as guys open up easily than girls.

  Anyway the post is about me not them(it will be short anyway because philosophy shit bores people to hell) . The problem is with my brain ,i think there is a girl in my brain and she has my secret .Who doesn't want to know their own secret and in my case i am desperate to know it . For the last three years i wanted to be realist so turned into atheist thinking that everything is about energy and time and nothing else . But trying hard to be someone who you are not is very difficult and at times very disappointing unless you are stubborn about the idea(mind it i am stubborn). Maybe i would go back what i was when i was ‘NORMAL’ as people say it. I hope that i would believe in god someday to come.

   Coming black to the girl :p .She smiles at me when i ask her about my secret and doesn't even give me a hint ,such a mean girl. It just makes me try harder at finding myself in this turbulent world . Like the saying goes unexamined life is not worth living ,its a journey finding ones dream and knowing oneself and getting happiness from oneself .

  Dedicated to pretty ,beautiful,nerdy,scary,rude etc kind of girls in this world ,by that i mean all girls.

PS: Granny Rose in Titanic film said women’s eyes is a ocean of secrets. Well its true.